Sex is not the only way to connect with your partner. In fact, if you really want to get to know someone in those early days and weeks, it may be smarter to hold off on physical intimacy.
Building intimacy without sex will require some effort but it will definitely be worth it. Here are a few ways to do just that.
Create a safe zone
Intimacy is all about getting to know each other deeply and one of the ways to do that is to really talk, and more importantly, listen. Talk about your pasts and future goals. Talk about the hard stuff like loss and disappointment. When you’re able to create an environment where the both of you can share anything without fear of being judged, belittled or ignored, you’re well on your way to creating a deep relationship.
Share in each other’s core beliefs
To build intimacy without sex, you must understand each other’s core beliefs and share them. If this person values religion, for instance, endeavor to pray together, visit each other’s house of worship and so on.
Indulge in each other’s favorite things
Introduce him to your world while he introduces you to his. Share in each other’s hobbies. Visit his hangout spots and vice versa. Take him to the places that matter to you. Little by little, he will begin to see get a clearer picture of what your life is like and this will make him become more understanding of your choices and decisions.
You don’t need to depend on sex to have a good relationship. Simply talking to each other and spending quality time together can give you a clearer idea of whether or not this person is meant for you.
