Protected By A Lie Or Hurt By The Truth?

One of the qualities everyone seems to want from any member of the opposite sex they decide to go into a relationship with, is honesty. No one wants to be kept in the dark when it comes to matters of the heart and things that concern the success of one’s relationship. People want the truth about what goes in in your life, about your feelings, your reasons for taking certain decisions, your attitude in certain situations. Or do we just THINK we do?

In so many situations – romantic relationships, friendships, work etc – people tell lies so much and to practically anyone, and when asked, they mostly say that they lied because they didn’t want to hurt the people involved. But is this really the way things should be? As much as people don’t want to get hurt by anyone they care about, is it really a much more preferable choice to lie to them and deceive them straight to their faces? Isn’t it better to just tell them the truth and let them feel hurt than lie to them to make them feel better, only for them to find out later?
I think the betrayal is deeper when you were made to believe something and thought everything was just perfect – the person’s words, actions were all done according to the script called a LIE to supposedly protect you from the hurt and pain of the truth. This is why people feel really crushed when they find out that they had been lied to, instead of being told the truth so as to find out how best to handle the situation. Personally, I would rather be told the truth and suffer the hurt than be protected by a lie all my life. Would YOU?

Article by Soomto Ajanma