You will only be truly happy and secure in your relationship when the majority of your needs are being met. Otherwise, you’ll find yourself feeling dissatisfied and maybe a little lost.
What does it take to ensure you’re getting what you need in a relationship? This isn’t particularly difficult to achieve as long as you’re ready to do some serious self-reflection and communication. Here are some ways to make sure your relationship meets your needs:
Know what makes you happy
If you cannot figure out what you’re looking for in a relationship, how exactly will you know if and when you find it? Take some time. Make a list if you must but ensure that whatever you do, you’re honest with yourself. Your list should not be based on someone else’s input or popular opinion.
Find someone that can give it to you
The truth is, not everyone is capable of loving you the way you want to be loved. You can’t want monogamy and then fall in love with a player. Things will be wobbly right from the start and you’ll end up not getting what you need if you don’t choose someone that can give it to you. So take your time in searching for a partner. Make sure that not only are they capable, but they are also ready to be in this with you.
Ask for it
Even if he’s the right fit, you cannot simply expect him to figure out your needs without communicating them. Don’t be so scared of “asking for too much” that you choose not to ask at all. If something is important to your happiness, then ask for it. It takes the guesswork out of the whole thing and makes the relationship less tedious.
Getting what you from your partner is one of the major ways to know you’ve chosen the right person.
