Relationship experts will always advise you to figure out what you want in a partner. Being clear about your needs make it more likely that you will find the right guy for you. But what happens when you’re not really sure about what you want.
There are things society expects you to want. There are also attributes that sound good on paper. And let’s not forget the influence of our peers in your decision-making. How can you shut out all of this and figure out exactly what you want in a relationship? Consider these methods.
List the things you don’t want
We assume you’re not new to this dating game. So think about some of your exes’ traits that irked you when you were with them. Give a second thought to what led to the breakup. What were those things that had you questioning if this guy was for you? When you start listing the things you don’t want, all that’s left may give you a picture of what you do want.
Have a relationship role-model
It doesn’t even have to be a real-life couple. Couples in movies, books and TV shows will do just fine. Ask yourself what you love about them. What about the guy appeals to you? His career, his unwavering support for his partner, his looks? Get as specific as possible. And don’t forget to write down what it is about the couple that you don’t like too. You’re trying to create your own preferences here so it does not have to look exactly like that model relationship. But that couple can help navigate you in the right direction.
Let your imagination run wild
Our mind always takes us much further than we will ever reach. So, take advantage of this limitless opportunity by using your imagination. Call it daydreaming or fantasizing, when you start to imagine your ideal relationship scenario, you’ll quickly notice a pattern. Who you are, who he is, what you do together can give you a picture of the kind of relationship you want deep down.